Are You Heading for a Sleep Divorce?
In the quest for a better night’s sleep, 16% of adults in a relationship in the UK now choose to sleep in separate beds. According to recent research*, the phenomenon, known as ‘Sleep Divorce’, is on the rise, up from just 7% in 2010.
Snoring is the most common cause of decamping to the spare room, with 36% of women and 38% of men giving this as their reason for choosing separate beds, while one in ten cite a fidgety or duvet-hogging partner as their catalyst for solo snoozing. Practically, to ensure both partners get enough quality rest, separate sleeping arrangements can be a sensible choice for shift workers or anyone who keeps unsociable hours. Whatever the reason, more than half, 56%, say that sleeping separately has improved their sleep ‘a lot’.
There’s no doubt that more restful sleep at night can make for a more harmonious relationship in the daytime, but some couples report feelings of isolation and an inevitable loss of intimacy.
Tackling the causes of nighttime disturbances like fidgeting and snoring is the start point to keeping ‘sleep marriage’ alive. Clear, easier breathing and sleep position can help alleviate snoring. An open window or a decongestant balm can help to improve ventilation and open up stuffy airways. Sleeping on your side also helps to reduce snoring.
For restless fidgeters, a calming nighttime routine and good sleep hygiene are a must. Avoid caffeine within 4 hours of bedtime and switch off screens and TVs in the bedroom at least half an hour before sleep to help calm your mind. Reading or listening to an audiobook in low lighting can help prompt the production of the sleep hormone melatonin, your body’s natural trigger for sleep. A warm bath with essential oils can help you to relax before bedtime too.